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What do you think are the top 5 reasons people stay in bad relationships?

What do you think are the top 5 reasons people stay in bad relationships?
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mamakin mamakin
 
 April 07, 2009 03:52 PM
from my own situational experience these are my reasons (and a couple are supposed of others' views)....they might or might not be in order of importance based on my mood, but all apply:

1. monetary reasons. it is cheaper to live together than apart.
2. familiarity. it can be frightening to think of stepping away to find things worse than they were when you were together.
3. commitment. hurting someone is never easy and some people still subscribe to monogamy, do or die.
4. fear. whether it is fear of failure, being alone, change......
5. failure. many people feel that if they can't succeed in a relationship there is something wrong with them.


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drmatt drmatt
 
April 07, 2009 04:08 PM
Nice list. I would wrap all of these up into "mistaken beliefs".

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mamakin mamakin
 
April 10, 2009 12:01 AM
i wouldn't call them mistaken. in this recession it certainly is cheaper to pay rent on one place and household bills as well...
the rest are subjective

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April 07, 2009 04:06 PM
#1: Mistaking "being in love" for love. How many times have I heard "But I LOOOOVE him!"

#2: "He'll change." This mistaken belief is the worst and a primary reason domestic violence victims return to the abuser.

#3: Thinking that this is the way relationships are supposed to be. (Another mistaken belief.) Probably learned from parents or caretakers.

#4: Similar disorders. "People who are like each other, like each other." Although two people with paranoia won't hang together, two Narcissistic personalities definitely would. So, the bad relationship is a part of an individual issue.

#5: Manipulation. Playing on #1 and #2, people see benefiting through using the other, so they'll manipulate the other person to stay in the relationship.

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princessof... princessof...
 
April 07, 2009 05:44 PM
I'm basing my answer off of the reasons my mother is staying with my father;

1. Financial dependence
2. They think the person is the best they will ever get
3. They have children and they feel splitting up will ruin the child(en)'s self image or family image
4. They are scared the person they are with will hurt them if they leave or if they want to leave
5. The person thinks that the person they are with will change but in reality they already changed into a horrible human being.
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My source is my partial life time experience of dealing with my parents!


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