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How do we know if we are in a healthy relationship or if our relationship is toxic? In order to determine if your relationship is good for you, you have to first learn about toxic relationships and what kind of treatment is toxic for someone(you).

Signs That You Are In A Toxic Relationship
1 When you go out to dinner with other couples, your partner goes out of their way to make jokes, and uses you as the main target of those jokes. This happens often and is not a one time occurrence.
2 You always have dinner ready when your partner comes home from work. Even though you have tried your best to make a good meal, your partner constantly finds things wrong with the way you have cooked.
3 You have always worked hard to provide for your family, even if that means working overtime and not being able to spend as much time as you would like with you partner and children. Your partner constantly nags at you about working too much. When you are in front of your friends, your partner comments on how much you love your job and how little you love her. Your partner tries to make you look bad every chance that they get.
4 You have gained some weight but are working on losing it, instead of supporting and encouraging you, your partner tells you how fat you are and degrades you in public by making remarks about your appearance. They may tell you that they don't want to make love until you loose the weight.
5 Your partner makes it a regular habit of checking your cell phone to see who you have called and who has called you. They check your email, open your mail before you are allowed to see it, or goes through you wallet or purse while you are sleeping.
6 Your partner makes it a point to bring up things that will make you cry or things that they know for certain will hurt you.
7 You try to sit down and talk with your partner about how you are feeling about certain things, you are being open and honest with them, putting your heart on the line. Your partner laughs at practically every comment that you make, demean you, and blame you for the things they do wrong. Instead of listening to what you have to say, your partner makes a joke out of you feelings.
8 Your partner is physically, mentally or emotionally abusive.

If you are in a toxic relationship, you can find a healthy one. You first have to remove yourself from the toxic relationship and recognize that you deserve a better life.

How To Have A Healthy Relationship
1 You have to realize that successful relationships take work. They don't happen overnight. They occur only when the couple takes the risk of sharing what is going on in their hearts and heads.
2 You must understand that you can only change yourself, not your partner. If you love someone and think that you will be able to change one or more of their behaviors, you are wrong. If you want your partner to change themselves for the better, discuss what behavior you think needs changed. Do not put down an ultimatum.
3 Many times our arguments stem from the fear within ourselves or pain from a previous relationship. When you get in an argument, pay attention to what is going on inside of your own head instead of getting upset with your partner. Many times, we find that we aren't upset for the reasons that we think we are.
4 You must understand that men and women are very very different. Some say we are from different planets, some say different solar systems. You should try to understand and celebrate you differences, this will make life together more peaceful, and interesting.
5 Recommit to your partner each morning. If your partner feels respected and cherished by you, their life will be much more enjoyable.
6 When you become angry with you partner, you are taking a chip out of the foundation of your relationship. Only so many chips can be taken out before the foundation crumbles. If you are upset with your partner, give yourself time to calm down before trying to discuss what is going on,
7 Become each others best friends.
8 Do not make your partner responsible for your happiness. A person cannot make you happy, you are the one responsible for that.
9 Most of us have heard of the golden rule. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. This applies in relationships to. If you want your partner to be more trusting, try trusting them a little more.

There are no guarantees in life, but if you practice these techniques in your relationship, you should for the most part have a very healthy relationship and keep yourself clear of any toxic relationships.
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