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Question for men: Will he call or should I?
I met a guy at the library. He acted interested - made a point to stay, talk about the movies I was taking out, asked me if I was going to watch them alone, then asked me if I wanted to watch a movie with him sometime. I said "yes that would be nice." Before I left, he was unsure I was interested and said -"So I will see you around here sometime." I asked if he wanted to exchange phone numbers, he said yes. and we did. I am not one to call a guy first and feel like it's up to him since he seem interested. If he doesn't call in a week or so, should i make the effort to call him (even though that is not like me and I don't want to appear forward)? Thank you in advance for your feedback
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Call him. There's a good chance he left your phone number in his jeans pocket and washed it. He's probably been kicking himself all week wishing he'd kept up with your number. You have nothing to loose by seizing the day, picking up the phone and inviting him for coffee, drinks or dinner. If you get his voice mail - just be sure to leave your name and number so he can call you back. Good luck!
Thanks for your insight. It's been 4 days since we met so I will bite the bullet and call. You are right about seizing the day - life is too short and opportunities only come once. Thanks for the good luck wishes. Take care.
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Guys are actually quite shy, and many are reluctant to call a girl on the telephone. You may have to meet him repeatedly at the library. But, if you want to be modern and liberated give him a call. Make the call relevant (guys like subject relevance vs general chat) by talking about some movie you heard good things about. Or, a book you found in that library.
Thank you for your answer and suggestion to make the call relevant as guys prefer this. That is good info to know. It's been four days since we met and haven't heard from him, so I will be the "modern and liberated woman" and call him. Appreciate your nfo.
G'day chitbippi,
Thanks for your question.
It depends. Generally, if he is keen, he will call you within the next couple of days. It might be shyness but he wasn't too shy to speak with you in the first place.
If he doesn't call, you might want to call him to see what the story is. Don't get your hopes up in those circumstances.
Good luck.
Regards
Thanks for your question.
It depends. Generally, if he is keen, he will call you within the next couple of days. It might be shyness but he wasn't too shy to speak with you in the first place.
If he doesn't call, you might want to call him to see what the story is. Don't get your hopes up in those circumstances.
Good luck.
Regards
Thanks much for your answer. It's been four days and no call so I will bite the bullet and call him. I have no expectations and if nothing comes of it, I am just flattered that he flirted with me when I was wearing no makeup and old jeans!
Girl don't wait a week! If he doesn't call you in a couple days call him! He may be really shy and you might be missing out on something special. Good luck!!
Thanks for your answer, your encouragement and good luck wishes!
If he gave you his phone number, he gave you permission to call him. A week is long enough. Maybe he lost your number and wants to call you. What is the worst that can happen???? He can hang up if he is not interested or married.
Thanks for your answer. It's been four days and no call so I will call him. As you said, what is the worst that can happen?
I'm not going to generalize and say "Guys are shy". Different people have different personality styles.
This guy *might* be shy... but he gave you his phone number, so he can't be THAT shy.
If you're interested in getting together with this person, give it a few days (the magic "3") and then give him a call.
Don't make it too big of a deal, but check in to see if he's still interested in getting together. If not, no big deal...
This guy *might* be shy... but he gave you his phone number, so he can't be THAT shy.
If you're interested in getting together with this person, give it a few days (the magic "3") and then give him a call.
Don't make it too big of a deal, but check in to see if he's still interested in getting together. If not, no big deal...
Thanks very much for your answer and for not generalizing. I also believe that every guy is different. Yes, he wasn't too shy to approach me nor to ask me if I wanted to watch a movie with him sometime. Curious about your "magic" 3 days.... is that some secret time limit between men in which to wait to call a woman? It's been four days since we met and exchanged numbers and I haven't heard from him. I will call him tomorrow and take your advice about not making a big deal of it and just ask if he is still interested in getting together. I am a little leary of doing so as it's Valentine's week and I don't want him to think I am calling because of that. I appreciate your feedback very much.
There are a number of mystic numbers. Three and seven are pretty important ones... That's why I call them "magic".
If you like him, call him. Simple as that.
Thanks for the simplicity of your answer.
U should call him in general and talk about other topics and if u see that he is interested then u can take it further.May be he is also feeling the same ways as u are felling. Go a Head Best of luck.
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