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How do i break up with a guy that i liked, and he likes me, but i just dont feel like i want to date him; there is nothing there between us.

He really likes me, and I dont want to sound stupid I need to have a good reason.
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michelleld... michelleld...
 
 September 22, 2009 11:09 PM
Sometimes, even when you're in love with someone, you have to break up a relationship because it's just not what you need in your life. It's okay to tell him the truth, but do it in a kind manner. If you want to be friends with him, then say so, but don't be cliche about it.

Sometimes, you can really care for someone and just not feel any sparks, and it's not that person's fault or your fault. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with him or you. It just means the two of you aren't right for each other.

I've been told that before, and today, 20 years later, I'm still good friends with that person. In fact, he's one of my best friends. How you handle this now will determine how the future goes with this guy and it sounds like you like him enough to still want him in your life.

Try to salvage a friendship. Friendship depends on honesty, so kindly tell him the truth. It's the right thing to do for you and for him.

Best of luck to you on this. Stay strong and do what's right for you!
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tinasam tinasam
 
September 22, 2009 10:48 PM
Tell him that at this stage/time/part of your life that you really can't focus on relationships right now and that while you like him you don't feel it fair to him to not devote all your heart to him and so you can't date him at the moment.

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September 26, 2009 02:38 AM
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fallen_ang... fallen_ang...
 
September 22, 2009 11:04 PM
Aww... tell him what's really inside you. Tell him how much you like him but there's still a part of you that isn't ready for a commitment. Tell him how unfair it would be for him and for yourself as well if you too would still be together. Promise him too that even though you can't really be partners, he can count on you whenever he needs a good friend...

I know telling him is a tough thingy... but I think being honest about what you feel matters the most.

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peekaboo19 peekaboo19
 
September 22, 2009 11:10 PM
I would tell him exactly how you feel, you may hurt him or upset him, but its better than being with him, when he thinks theres something between you and you dont, feelings are gonna get hurt, and its not good to lead people on. Who knows maybe you guys will still be friends. Leading someone on will hurt them more than just breaking up with them. If he really likes you and cares for you his feelings are going to keep getting deeper and deeper, and your feelings just arent there, either way he's going to be the one that gets hurt.
Just be kind about it, and let it out easily. But be honest with your feelings and your emotions.

I hope this helps:)

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investor50... investor50...
 
September 22, 2009 11:37 PM
Personally I like the first answer you recieved from this person because she has a good common sense answer about relationships and the who, what, when, where and how to do with present relationships.

Good luck.
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cmajaski cmajaski
 
September 23, 2009 12:20 AM
I agree with being kind but don't be too nice. Sometimes the speech about I like you a lot, this isn't the right time for me, I'm too busy, etc etc just makes people hang around forever hoping you'll change your mind and "come to your senses".

It's best to be truthful at the same time, "I liked you but there are no sparks between us. We should both move on."

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lostsnconf... lostsnconf...
 
September 23, 2009 02:42 AM
Well, what is your reason? Just that the feeling that you had for him before just isn't there for him any more? Well you just tell him what you feel. It doesn't matter if you think you sound stupid, the important thing is that you tell him the truth and that he understands. There's nothing stupid about you losing your feelings for him, stuff like this happens to people a lot. So just tell him what's on your mind. If he still asks you why, then just tell him everything. It's better to tell him something than to tell him nothing at all.

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