Girls are not dogs, and therefore, cannot be "trained" to do anything, especially in matters of love.

...same thing applies even though you changed the word to "assist." Focus on changing yourself, not the other person.
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There is no Love Potion #9, and any "tricks" or otherwise temporary solutions use to maintain a relationship are just that, temporary. I believe that if you are yourself, you will find someone who will like you for you. They will accept you for you and you don't need to do anything but be yourself.

With that said, ask yourself, "Are the best person you can be?". Please take no offense to this as I do not know you, but I do know that no one is perfect. So maybe there are things you can change about youself that will make you a better you. Like dropping a bad habit, becoming a better listener, focusing more on the happiness of others, etc. The key to change is that you do it for the right reason. You must do it for yourself otherwise it too will be temporary. If you do make changes to become a better you then you may become more attractive to others. Good Luck!
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If you want a woman to move from friendship into romance, that's tricky.

You have to really listen to her. Make eye contact--hold it a tad longer than a "friend" would. When listening to her, try checking what you've heard to see if you got it right. I know that's scary and difficult for a lot of guys, but it lets her know that you care enough to try to get what she means the way she means it. And be careful to not interrupt or make assumptions or tell her what she's thinking. Something like "So you're saying when 'x' happened, it made you feel like 'y'?"

Be a little old-fashioned. Opening doors and pulling out chairs (at least in a fancy restaurant) is a mark of respect. Hartwell said to give her a single red rose--that's a nice idea. Moonlight walks are nice, too. If you can find an outdoor evening event to go to, and then find a park or someplace to mozy along on the way back and maybe find a park bench to sit and talk for a bit, perhaps you can give her the right atmosphere to help her move to romance from friendship.

Check to see if you have any "odious personal habits" and work to drop them if you do. If you have a sister, ask her--sisters can be brutally honest, but at least they're honest! You look nice and well-groomed from your photo avatar.

I wish I could find a link for what I'm about to say, but I think I read it in a print magazine years ago--probably National Geographic or Discovery or Smithsonian, but it's stuck with me because I really think it applied to when I met my husband:

According to this article, the pheromes people secrete are changed if the woman is on birth control pills. The speculation was that when a woman was "natural", the choice of mate was genetically better than if her hormones were altered by the pill. I'm guessing it maybe is, because in my case my husband is a completely different physical type than anyone I'd dated before, and our kids don't have any of the inherited problems from either side of the family. I could say they're incredibly talented and good-looking, too, but who would believe me? LOL!

The point of that is if you are friends, have made it a point to be a good listener and to be respectful, have cleared up any off-putting habits and have given hints you want more, and she doesn't bite, it's either going to take longer or she's not right for you.

Good luck!
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A healthy person opens up only as much as partner does. Maximum, ensures a meeting of the mind, emotional responsiveness, and synchronizing from individual identity to a couple identity. Express love, respect, and admiration for your husband or wife. Reciprocity, helps shift indifference curves and insists that the other person value you by the demand demonstrated in their actions. If a partner is not willing to sacrifice, service, and consider your values then do not reciprocate. Negotiating a high value relationship presupposes, selection of a caring, attentive, and considerate partner.
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You can't. You have to walk alone for 1 year and so does your future wife. If you've known her all your life, you need to be able to look back to her from the horizon
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Here.

Make her these cookies:
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_EGDHTRZmYYM/SYsUboYv1ZI/AAAAAAAAG8I/2mG-XG7Sq6M/s400/IMG_2094_2.jpg

http://aromasysabores-heidileon.blogspot.com/2009/02/nutella-alfajores-world-nutella-day.html

They are easy to make and every drop of effort you put into these will mean something. They're heart shaped and since that is associated with love, the connection will be made.

When she opens the elegantly decorated box of them (think classic white with a satin red ribbon), tell her that you made them for her.

Now here's where this gets important: PAUSE. Count to 20. Long Pause. Wait for it and watch.

Judge her response and if she looks at you all "ooo... really"... you will have effectively told her "Happy Valentines Day, I dig you". Ask her if she'd like to go to *insert upscale restaurant here* on Valentines day and then part ways until then.

If she opens the box, hears about your effort and shys away nervously... just tell her that you gave some to your other friends too and hope that she likes them.

There is simply no way to make someone love you. But if you're creative you can evaluate your position and leave the door open to try again later. All relationships constantly change and love is no different - foster the relationship in a "classy" way and you'll be successful.
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What you are talking about here is how to make a girl 'like' you, not 'love' you, there's a difference. It's read easily between the lines of the language you're using; "keep her coming back". Guess what, you're not a fast food restaurant trying to build your brand name and swindle the customers. That is another human being you're talking about, with thoughts, dreams and emotions every bit as complex as yours and until you understand that girls will not fall in love with you.

We can smell it on you.

So, how to make a girl like you? That's a different story! That's where this whole Pavlovian dog story comes in, give her some chocolates and some flowers, it's that easy. She'll like you the way she likes a specific fast food chain, because it gives her something she wants. Do it enough times and she might start stringing you in order to get more chocolates or if she's the other sort of girl she'll try to let you down easy.
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