Definitely don't call right away after the first date. I hate to say it, but it makes the person look desperate. By all means all your friends or whoever and tell them.

As for the three day rule, it's totally out the window for me. If I go out on a Friday I usually call some time late on Sunday or I'll text them on Saturday just to chat a bit.
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I think the three day wait thing is absurd..If I was a guy and I just went out with a girl I would want her to call the next day..Especially if It was a good date.

People say you have to wait three days or you'll look desperate..Well calling them five seconds after the date might be desperate but maybe the next day would be fine..I mean come on the guy has feelings too!
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From a guy's perspective, I would find it weird if a girl randomly waited because her friends or Cosmo told her to. Of course, the flip-side is, "the chase" is a big part of relationships. A girl may start beating a guy's confidence down by not calling for a few days, and then by calling him, makes his eyes get wide and excited. I think a girl should keep a guy on his toes - this definitely makes her more exciting. Always give yourself a bit of time to filter out the feelings of you "wanting to find the perfect guy/girl" and then projecting "perfection" onto the person. I think this glow may get a lot of people in trouble. Of course, this is also usually the best part of the relationship, so, if you and the other person have goo-goo ga-ga eyes for one another, then call him/her and go have some fun. This isn't a movie. Why wait?
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It depends on how the first date ended ...

If it went well, and you are attracted to each other and think it's worth pursing then wait or call; your choice.

If it was fantastic date and the other person clearly had a great time also, call the next day. Waiting is silly at that point and may inadvertently convince the other person that you didn't think it was as great as they did.

Many years ago I had a great first date. Over the next couple of days I was unable to get a hold the young lady; she didn't answer her phone or return my messages. So, not being the stalker type, I left well enough alone. Years later I found out that she was "playing it cool for a few days" and wondered why I had stopped calling her. Lucky for me, since I may not have met my wife otherwise ... but still.
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You should just sit back and wait. Men generally know that it is their job to call. He may be busy, but he didn't forget. One of the worse mistakes that women make is calling a guy. I am attaching an article about the mistakes that woman make in relationships. I hope it helps you.
Check Out #1.

We as women, have a tendency to push a mans buttons in the beginning of relationships. We think that everything is going fine and all of a sudden, we find ourselves asking "What did I do wrong?." Usually by the time we reach this point in the relationship, the men are trying to avoid answering any questions that we ask them. So how do we avoid this situation? How do we find out what we are doing wrong? This article will discuss the mistakes that women tend to make with their men in the beginning of a relationship.
1 Calling him all of the time. Look, men know that it is their responsibility to call you. If he wants to talk to you, he will call you. If he doesn't call, move on. If you call over and over and over, you will only annoy him and there is no turning back from there. It may be hard to fight the urge, but the pay off is worth it.
2 Stop trying to get him to talk about his feelings. Even when you are snuggled up together on the couch, and you are dying to talk about your relationship and find out exactly where you stand in his world, don't. Men are more action oriented when it comes to showing love, he is snuggling with you because that is his way of showing you that you are special and that he cares about you. If you insist that he talk about his feelings, you will soon find him moving away from you and your snuggling session will be over.
3 Do not ask questions about his past girlfriends. One or two questions about why they broke up is ok, you have a right to know if he became obsessive and stalked her. Asking too many questions can lead to all sorts of problems including reconciliation. If you get him to think about all the good times they had together, he may be the one that he calls tomorrow.
4 Stop babbling. Check yourself often to see if you have been going on and on. Men usually will listen for a while, but when you start going on and on about how you dress up your dog for Halloween, you will quickly loose his attention.
5 Don't cry! It is okay if you are watching a sad movie together, but if you are crying because he forgot to kiss you goodbye, at least don't let him know. This will run him off very fast.
6 Don't look so available. If you have gone out a few times, the next time he asks you, say you have plans but you would love to some other time. He will not forget about you or give up on asking you out because you have a life of your own, actually men like when women have their own lives.
7 Stop with the 6 page letters. At least wait until you have been together at least a year before you start pouring your heart out to him. It is hard for a man to deal with, and it makes them very uncomfortable if they do not feel the same way. Go ahead and get them a birthday card, or a funny card, just don't write a novel inside of it, simply sign your name.
8 Don't leave stuff at his house unless he tells you that you can. This usually freaks a man out and makes it seem like you are moving way to fast. Unless he actually says, "You can just leave that here," make sure you have everything that you came with when you leave.
9 Never show up at his work unless asked! Don't surprise him for lunch, or call him at work, this seems like you are stalking him. It is just a bad idea.
10 Don't bring up marriage, and your hopes for 10 kids, a big house and 2 dogs. If he asks, don't tell him about the dress you have picked out for your wedding and that you already have everything planed out. You can play around with the topic but keep the conversation fun and not serious. You really could scare a man off very quickly with this topic.
These are the top 10 mistakes that women keep making over and over again. The most important thing that you can remember is that all men are different, and they are on a completely different wave link than women. The best thing that you can do is to make sure you and he are both having fun and enjoying yourselves. He will open up when he is ready.
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