That is odd. I agree she was expressing interest.

Perhaps she received incorrect information regarding you. Either in the way of a bad rumor as far as your character or someone told her you had said something along the lines of not being interested.

If you haven't already attempted to do so, I would simply ask her, "What's going on?" Find out why her behavior toward you has shifted so suddenly and why. Chances are it's a misunderstanding.

I would also recommend expressing your interest more clearly. Women like a direct man who knows what he wants and isn't afraid to say so, even though I always found shy a bit cute. Send her your inquiry about her behavior in flowers perhaps?

I know coming out and saying your interested in someone can be hard. It makes us all feel 16, but love is a risk. You have to take some to find it.

Best of luck.
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I would stop all the online chatting. If I were her, I might be thinking "this guy is just messing with me. He wants to talk online, but when he sees me in person, he just runs away. He's just bored and wasting my time." Find her on campus, ask if she wants to grab some coffee, and tell her you miss talking to her, and would like to make coffee or other in-person contact a regular thing.

I think you're coming off as rather passive and not very interested. Where you might think online chatting is a relationship, she is probably used to much, much more. You need to stop hiding behind the screen and let her get to know an actual person. You don't need to rush a relationship, but you guys go to the same school--there's no reason to avoid real contact.
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I vote not to push anything. If she got the wrong information about you then she should have approached you to correct it. It is possible that she was jsut testing the waters and for some reason decided to back off. Honestly, I would just go about my business and leave it to her.
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For whatever reason, this girl is letting you know she's lost interest in you. You could have started coming across as too needy and desperate, a definite turn-off for guys OR gals.

She may have gotten some misinformation about you, but do you want a gal who believes what she's told without checking it out with you personally?

It could be that once you went on the offensive, she didn't want to have that type of relationship with you and backed off so she didn't lead you on any further. Maybe she just isn't ready for an exclusive relationship with anybody; maybe it's not anything personal.

Maybe you're just not her "type" even though you say you seem to have a lot in common. Maybe you have too much in common. Our partners often fill in the gaps and complement our strengths and weaknesses, instead of being a carbon copy of us.

Stop the online contact Remain your charming and friendly (not pushy or overbearing) self when you do cross her path on campus. After she hasn't heard from you for a while, she may decide she really did like you and resume contact, but let her make the first move.

In the meantime, don't waste time mooning over her. Get involved in campus activities where you may meet another girl who shares your interests and will be thrilled to spend time with you.

Plenty of other fish in the sea, and there's no point in trying to hook one that doesn't want to be caught!
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If you are really 22 and have not dated anyone then you probably need professional help and training to begin a normal social life. Occasional tips on line aren't going to do the job. You could try some self help books and lots of practice but you probably would have already if you had that kind of discipline.

Don't worry about this particular girl, you have to get yourself in shape, socially speaking. Practice talking to girls both online and in person.
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Give it time.
Sometimes people are fickle. Try to stop online communications with this person.See if you can arrange to see them in person and run into them.
Try random convo instead of common interests.

Maybe try to talk to her friends for some insite to the situation.Maybe she found a BF???
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It could be that she is nervous or that she has found someone else. Whatever the case I would recommend backing off of the romantic persuit and trying to get to know her as a friend instead. If you get to know each other as friends fist it can make a relationship flow more naturally if that is what interests you both. If not, than at least you've made a friend.

You might also consider speaking with her friends if you know and trust any of them personally. Sometimes friends can guide you in the right direction when persuing a relationship.
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chalk this one up to experience. you have now figured out ONE of the millions of ways to NOT to start a relationship.

i'd set a goal for next month (november, as i write this.) pick a number ... 3 seems good. make it your goal to go on 3 dates with 3 different people. you can ask them at random, or get set up by your friends. the point of this excercise is NOT to start a relationship or find a mate, the point is simply to go out. if they want a second date, tell them you are busy until december.

go to a museum, go to your favorite restaurant, go to a restaurant you have always wanted to try, go see a play, go have a picnic in the park, go to the mall, go to a church carnival, whatever.

you should have the destination in mind (and perhaps one or two alternates) then ask the stranger (no later than tuesday or wednesday) "Hi, i'm looking to get out more, would you like to go see Pippin with me this friday? i have two tickets and my friend who was going to go with me has to go to her parents this weekend. (or whatever.) If they decline, (there are a million reasons to say no that you don't need to take personally) fine, go ask someone else.

good luck. now's a great time to be 22.
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